How One Theory is Changing the Way We Relate

In a world filled with mainstream romance and predictable fairy tales, a new voice is emerging from the grassroots to challenge how we understand the most complex human experience which is love. For the author, a relationship is a puzzle to be solved.

Every great work begins with a question. For this author, that question that started as an early curiosity about romantic encounters evolved into a lifelong passion for understanding the human connection. "Relationships gave me a path to understand the complexities," he shares. "They test your emotional depth and resilience."

And as he moved through different phases of life, he noticed a pattern where people often outgrow each other when the engagement stops being honest. Drawing inspiration from the balanced dynamic of his parents  with a mother who knew her worth and a father committed to the marriage, he began to benchmark what a successful union looked like. However, the path was not always linear. He realized the formula that worked for the previous generations did not necessarily apply to the modern world.

The book itself shifts from traditional storytelling. Using a non-linear structure, the author wants the reader to become an active participant in the story. "Creative-wise, I believed in the idea of a puzzle," he explains. "I wanted the readers to fix the story and understand it from their own perspective."

One of the most thought-provoking themes of the book is the tension between reliability and validity. While evolutionary science suggests we need stability for survival, the author poses a question: what if the relationship is no longer honest? Being honest has more integrity than remaining in a pretentious one. The author believes that truth can only be found in resonance.

This is embodied in the story or Matt and Renee. Often perceived as a difficult encounter, the author views it differently. "Renee represents structure, measure, and the time required to prove an engagement is worthwhile. She symbolizes the mind." He explains further that Matt represents the polar opposite who symbolizes passion. In his philosophy, the masculine and feminine forces are not opposing polarities, but complementary elements that make a whole.

When asked about the future of a relationship, the author returns to the metaphor of a garden. He warns that without a clear perspective, a relationship can become an illusion that only grows into disappointment. "We do not plant a seed just to harvest. We plant it to grow possibilities," he says. To him, the seed of a lasting one must be grounded on growth and not merely settling down to have a better life. It is choosing a partner who allows individuals to grow progressively alongside one another.

As the book prepares for its public release, the author reveals that his own theory has evolved. It has moved from a simple search for balance to a deeper pursuit of convergence. His hope for the reader is simple yet profound. He wants them to close the book feeling a sense of epiphany and that light bulb moment where a long-standing question is finally answered. He wants his audience to feel resolved, inspired, and, seen.